Weekly Words of Wisdom Q and AWeekly Words of Wisdom Q&A: Guidance, Direction, and Truth

For the conscious, heart-centered business owner, entrepreneur, and professional who is most likely working way too hard to BE the best that they can BE.

Master certified coach, Judy K. Katz, your manifesting and attraction authority and mentor, answers your most pressing questions for creating a life of meaning and purpose while enjoying wealth in all areas of your business and personal life.


This week’s question comes from Pamela, in Washington.

Question:

I have so much trouble maintaining peace in my life, trying to be a good mom, and at the same time, growing my business, which consumes a lot of my time. I wrestle with feelings of guilt no matter which way I turn. Do you have any suggestions for me to find peace within my inner turmoil?

Answer:

Pamela, you have asked a million dollar question that I know applies to many women. As a matter-of-fact, I have suffered with guilt for being a career-mom a big part of my life, too. It is very painful to experience this conflict and incredibly energy draining.

I commend you for wanting to have peace with the choices you’ve made, to be a mom, and to have a career. I appreciate the difficulty of your conflict. I do have a simple, yet profound answer that will end your suffering.


Guilt comes from doing or not doing things that you think you should or should not do. It is not the Truth. It does, however, point to certain rules that you have or that have been imposed upon you; and it reveals who you think you “should” be, in your case, a perfect, loving mom and a successful business woman.

When you violate the image of who you think you “should” be and what you believe you “should” do, you will feel guilty until you do one of these two things:

  1. either change your actions to adhere to your rules, which often are made to protect your justified image; (This one is impossible to maintain as you have discovered.)
  2. or change the justified image you have of yourself, probably of being a perfect mom and a savvy business owner – wonder woman. Perfectionism is most likely costing you the peace that you seek here.

The easiest way you can discover your justified image, which is wreaking havoc in your life, is to complete this statement:

  • As a mom, I must be seen as __________, or else I am a __________ mom.
  • As a savvy business woman, I must be seen as __________, or else I am a __________ businesswoman.

By trying to maintain your justified image; which we all have by the way, you will only perpetuate your feelings of guilt each time you act differently than your image. The problem, in your case, is not a moral issue. The problem is that your image becomes threatened. There is no peace in this mental construct, ever. Why? Because your image does not allow you to be human – to make mistakes and to fail. It presents you as a “thing.” It is a survival mechanism intended to have you be “good enough.”

I celebrate you accepting who you truly are, a beautiful loving mom who makes mistakes and does the best that she can, and the savvy businesswoman who fails and succeeds, who is learning and growing daily. Forgive yourself! This will bring you peace.

I do suggest that you sign up for a free consultation with me if you cannot discover or release your justified image and need more work in this area. You deserve to live your life from a place of peace and acceptance, rather than perfection and expectation.

My best to you for all of the peace, prosperity, and joy that you deserve!

In love and abundance,

“Dream it, own it, and make it REAL”

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